Wedding Guest List Struggles? Working out who comes and who doesn't!

Drawing up your wedding guestlist is a notoriously tricky task. Working out who to invite is the easy part – but working out who you do and don’t have the space and budget to accommodate is a minefield. However! It doesn’t need to be as hard as it sounds. Here I have some pointers to help you work out who will be receiving an invite in the post – and who will have to make do with browsing the photos on Facebook.

1. Before you do anything else, make a list of the people who are definitely invited.

Make sure you know how many people you can invite to the various stages of the day, from both a budget and capacity point of view. For example, there is no point inviting 200 guests when your venue can only cater for 100 guests.

2. Then, start with a list of the maybe guests and ask yourself the question: When did you last see them?

And no, seeing them on your twitter timeline doesn’t count! If you haven’t seen them in the last 3 months: it looks doubtful. If you haven’t see them in the last 6 months and there’s not been an obvious reason for their absence from your life, cross them off your list

3. Consider how well does your partner know the person.

If they are a friend from the office or an old classmate who your partner doesn’t know, consider leaving them off the guest list.

4. Once you’ve worked that out, work out how many of your definitely-invited guests they know.

If there’s a chance of them feeling uncomfortable, lonely or bored, cross them off. If you’re particularly strapped for space and are unable to allow plus-ones, will they be OK on their own? If not, don’t invite them. Simple!

4. What has their response to my wedding news been?

Have they messaged you to say congratulations, or sent you a card or email? If not – ask yourself the question:

Why do I want to invite them?

If it’s a no-brainer that you want them to come to your wedding day, read no more! But if you’re not entirely sure why, exactly, you want them to join you on the happiest day of your life, proceed to the next question.

5. After the wedding, when am I next most likely to see this person?

If it’s soon, give it some thought. But if not… Reach for the red pen

6. Is it practical for this person to attend?

If they live a thousand miles away, or will struggle to book the day off work, ask yourself if it’s worth putting them in the position of having to decide whether or not they want to attend.

7. How many of the other guests will this person know?

If the answer is a handful or less, you might want to spare them the awkwardness. However, if you can fit in a plus-one for them as well, reconsider!

8. Finally: do you think they’d invite you to their wedding?

It sounds petty but it can be a good indicator of whether or not they’d expect an invite to yours.

Tip of the Week:

You will have guests who did not RSVP, will show up on the day and won’t have a place to sit…My advice: After the RSVP date, try calling them on their mobile first and if they do not reply to you or call back, then I would take it that they are not attending. If they couldn’t be bothered to let you know, you can’t be expected to set-up seating arrangements for them just in case. If you are worried, have an unexpected-RSVP-contingency-plan and ask one of your bridal party to be in charge of it – you really don’t want to be worrying about it on your big day. Bestman or Chief bridesmaid should be informed if any guest has not RSVP’d and should they turn up on the day, they will look after it with the hotel.

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