There can be a lot of pressure on the best man on the day of
a wedding to ensure everything goes to plan and everyone is enjoying
themselves. I have some tips for all best man out there because it may be their
first time being the best man and for others, it may not.
It all begins when you are asked to be the best man for a
groom at his wedding, this can be exciting and also nerve-wracking. You need to
know what your duties are and better still, write a list of what is expected of
you so you cover all areas.
Help the groom choosing the suits for his wedding and
organise that all the groomsmen are present for the fitting. If you should have
some of the groomsmen living abroad, get their measurements and make sure to
bring those to the menswear shop and order everything together.
Before the wedding day, collect the suits for the groom and
help deliver them to where you will be getting ready on the morning of the
Be a bow tie tying whizz because chances are your groom will
be all fingers and thumbs on the big day! You will find a step by step guide on
google or any Pinterest board.
Any tips for the best man on their buttonholes or ring duty?
You must be in charge of the buttonholes for the wedding
day, even if you need extra help from the florist, know who the florist is so
that if you need to make contact with them for any reason, like missing a pin
from a buttonhole or missing one of the buttonholes, you know who to contact.
Make sure all the groomsmen and dad/brothers have their buttonholes and are all
pinned to their suits.
Regarding the ring duty, firstly do not forget the rings for
the ceremony, this is the most important thing I think on the day for the best
man. If the couple has chosen a ring bearer, your job is to keep the rings in
your possession for as long as possible before they are required.
So you have got to the ceremony, what is next for the best man?
Well, he needs to walk confidently up to the aisle with the groom,
you need to remember that the groom will probably at this point be very
nervous, take your place, standing next to the groom. He needs to act as a
legal witness to the marriage and therefore sign the marriage certificate. Pay
the officiant, singers or musicians present and help gather all the guests for
any photographs afterwards.
One little tip here, just make sure that the couple have
their marriage certificate with them on the day.
Anything else that the best man needs to know?
At the wedding reception, he needs to take charge of all the
payments on the day for the bride and groom such as settling up with the band, DJ,
photographer, videographer. Normally the couple will have the envelopes ready
with the money for each person.
He needs to dance also with the mums as it’s one of the
rules of being a best man and as usual dance with the bridesmaid after the
If the couple has no wedding wishing well which is storage
for their wedding cards, then the best man would be responsible to hold and
take care of the wedding cards on the day but for all of our weddings you
receive a wishing well included in your package which is great or you can also
hire them and Fiona Newell here in Galway supplies a lot of wishing wells to
Other items the best man takes charge of is the stag weekend
and organise this for the groom, organise the payments, booking of everything for
all the gents and ensuring that the groom has a great weekend.
He would also attend the wedding rehearsal and last but not
least, he needs to plan his speech. This would be an area that the best man
will probably be fretting about and a little anxious as the best man’s speech
is expected to be one of the highlights of the wedding. He is normally is the
last of the speakers but would introduce all the speakers, begins the speeches
and welcomes everyone to the venue. He usually mentions how he got to know the
groom, recall a couple of memorable stories about his past. The best man is
sometimes under pressure to be funny and witty but really the secret is to have
a short speech.
Tip of the week
Write down the list of duties that you are expected to do
for the groom, be yourself, don’t drink too much and most of all, ensure the
the groom is enjoying his wedding and that he doesn’t need to worry about anything
as you have it all taken care of.
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