What Does a Maid of Honour Really Do?

Maid of honour Etiquette every bestie needs to know: being the bride’s right-hand woman is a big deal!

What Does a Maid of Honour Really Do?

  • The maid of honour helps the bride with wedding planning, making decisions and navigating family difficulties and other stresses.
  • A maid of honour is responsible for being the head of the bridesmaids, keeping them organized.
  • Typically, the maid of honour leads the bridesmaids in planning a bridal shower and a Hen party.
  • On the day of the wedding, a maid of honour helps the bride get dressed and stay calm.
  • Sometimes the maid of honour makes a toast or a speech at either the wedding or the rehearsal dinner.

Who Should Be Chosen for the Maid of Honour

Traditionally, a bride asks her sister or her closest female friend to be the maid of honour. In situations where this is not possible, the bride may choose someone she trusts to be the maid of honour, who will help her during the wedding planning process.
In choosing your maid of honour, consider the amount of responsibility they will have and ensure they are able to meet these expectations. You may want to take a closer look at who will do the job best, keeping the family in mind and ultimately going with a pressure-free, gut instinct.
Chief bridesmaid/bridesmaid needs to have certain qualities:

  1. Loyalty 
    Remember that your first loyalty is to the bride. You need to help her with some of the most important decisions she’ll make for her special day. Even if you don’t agree with some of the things she wants, you should remember that your loyalty is to her and to make her feel good about herself. There might be a time when all she needs is someone to listen to. Do everything in your power to be there for her during this stressful time. She’s likely to make a few mistakes, and it’s your job to help her deal with them.
  2. Know Her Needs
    Every bride is different, so find out what she wants or needs from you. If she isn’t clear, don’t hesitate to ask. She might only want you to show up for events related to the wedding, or she might expect you to have an active role in planning.
  3. Be a Team Player 
    Chances are there will be more than one bridesmaid, so make sure you put on a united front, even if you don’t agree with the other women. You are all there for the same reason – to help ensure that the bride’s day goes well. She doesn’t need to hear gossip about how you can’t see eye to eye on things. There may be a few personality issues that make you cringe but keep them to yourself.
  4. This Isn’t About You 
    As a bridesmaid, remember that this wedding is about the bride, not you. If she chooses the most hideous dress for you to wear, you can voice your opinion in a very nice, calm manner. But if she still wants you to wear it, that’s what you should do.
    When the bride asks you to do something do it if at all possible – even something as difficult as walking through the sand in high heels. She has a vision that may have started as a childhood dream. Don’t ruin it by not cooperating.
  5. Your Opinion
    The bride may ask your opinion about various things throughout the planning process. It is okay, to be honest, but if you see that your response is causing distress, back off and ask what she thinks.
    The main bridesmaid is the maid of honour. She carries a few extra responsibilities in addition to those listed above, and she should do them with pleasure and a positive attitude. She is the bride’s strongest advocate during the entire engagement – from helping select the flowers to write up the wedding invitations.

Tip of the week: For the Maid of Honour or chief bridesmaid: Attend dress fittings with the bride, be her rock. Be on call from the engagement announcement until the end of the wedding.

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